13 Ways to Make Your Life More Sacred
So many women are longing for a more sacred life - a life of meaning, intention, purpose, and deep connection. You deserve to live a life that is completely magical from sun up until sun down, and even in your dreams to continue weaving magical threads. You are a sacred being! Here are 13 ways to start making your life more sacred today!
Carve more time up front into your morning practice.
I recommend slowly rising with the sun, easing into gentle movement and meditation, lighting candles at your altar, pulling cards, and spending time with your guides in whatever form they come up (God/dess, ancestors, spirits, elements, higher self). Setting an intention for your day instantly makes it sacred. A little journaling can go a long way towards alchemizing any unresolved emotions from your dreams or the past.
Build opening and closing rituals into your weeks.
A hot bath followed by oil massage and yoga nidra is my favorite Sunday night go-to. It could also look like goal or intention setting for the week ahead, or a Friday afternoon reflection on what you’re proud of from the week. Building in highs and lows check-ins is extremely regulating for our inner children and helps us thread meaning throughout our lives.
Clean and smoke cleanse your workspace and your body at the end of the work day.
As you close your laptop, say out loud “I’m leaving behind the energy of work and turning now toward the energy of rest/play/connection.” Fill in the blank with whatever your non-work intention is.
Cultivate relationships with the animate more than human spirits all around you.
Ask the trees what their names are. Make offerings to bodies of water, mountains, and plants of biodegradable food and flowers, or on-the-go offerings of a hair pulled with love, a song made up on the spot, or a prayer. Weave yourself into the land all around you by learning the names of plants and animals, what the indigenous stewards of your land call/ed the different formations and why. Bury crystals or seeds at the 4 corners of your property. Attune to the subtleties of the changing seasons, how the sun and moon pattern across the sky at different times of the year, and which birds migrate and which stay.
Make the mundane magical by bringing sacred intention to your cleaning and organizing.
Talk to the spirit of your home and go room by room, blessing it with the intention you’re calling in for that space. Whether it’s “rest” in the bedroom, or “community” in the dining room - speak it aloud and cleanse the space with song, dance, bells, saltwater, or smoke. Tune into the balance of each room, asking what wants to be moved, rearranged, or completely overhauled. Be sensitive to the ecosystem of your space, and become a Priestess of its energy - tending to it with ongoing love.
See getting dressed as sacred adornment.
Organize your closet beautifully so it’s a space you love being in and can easily find things within. Create a beautiful adornment altar for your jewelry, perfume, makeup, whatever you use. Light a candle, play music, and give yourself plenty of time to drop into the energy of getting ready. Rather than caring about what’s in style or what looks “flattering” (ugh, so fat phobic), lean into what awakens feelings that align with your intention. Wanting to feel powerful? What’s your power color? Wanting to feel sexy? What fabric awakens sensuality within you? Put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life and dress for the energy you WANT. Pair it with mirror gazing and affirmations like “dayumm I’m sexy!” and you can’t go wrong.
Build an altar to your soul’s work, your vision, or your business if you have one.
Place on the altar items that represent the energy you’re calling in - abundance, community, creativity. Tune into the animism of your inspiration - who is your muse? You could even honor those in your intellectual or craft’s lineage here - who has deeply inspired or taught you on this path? Make this a space to light a candle and connect inward to what work your soul is asking you to do on the planet. Anytime you feel devoid of purpose or lost as to what to pour your energy into - come back to your altar. This is a great place to drop into a future self meditation and look around and see where you are working and what you’re doing!
Make food sacred through mindful cooking and eating.
Whether it’s picking out each item at a farmer’s market or whispering spells into the herbs as you drop them into your soup - how can you cultivate a closer relationship with the food you’re eating? I find eating at the dining room table with candles lit and relaxing music playing really helps me and my family be more mindful with what we’re eating. Dinner table conversations are also a great place for unpacking the day’s highs and lows! Say a blessing over the food - reclaim this tradition by thanking the animals, plants, and workers directly who led this food to your plate. If you prepared the food, be grateful too for the energy to make it and the regulating effect even of cooking. Chew more slowly, notice more textures and tastes, and bask in the multi-sensory event of dining.
Make your partnership more sacred by setting intentions around time together.
You could say to your spouse, “For the next 15 minutes, could we connect without phones or distractions? I’d like to make eye contact, hold your hand, and talk about our feelings.” Yes, it’s hella vulnerable! But it’s how we actually meet our needs rather than continue to avoid them, letting them spill over into resentment.
Make your relationship more sacred by checking in regularly on your shared agreements.
These include chores, ideas for date nights, trips you want to take together, how you want to parent together, financial goals for the future, etc. It might take a weekly logistics meeting that is separate from date night to tackle everything on your list. Carve the time together and make it happen! This is a great space to bring to the table any lurking insecurities, perceived slights, or fears for your connection. I have a couple of friends who recommit to each other yearly - they make sure they both still want to be married, and if the day comes where their arrangement needs to shift, the time on their calendar is the place where they will start to explore that. How sovereign!
Make parenting sacred by teaching your kids about energy work from a young age.
Explain how their nervous system functions and how it’s the crossroads between their mind, body, and spirit. Help them tend to this power the way you wish you were taught - to regulate it, to rest properly, to get their needs met. This is how we raise sacred kids and break long chains of ancestral trauma. See your parenting role as incredibly important for changing the world!
Step back and see your life from a birdseye view.
Spend regular time connecting to your ancestors - the lives they didn’t get to live and the wounds they didn’t get to heal. Reflect on how you can be a part of changing these threads in your family tapestry. Think of your life as a myth - if you were the heroine in your own epic tale, what stage would you be in? Would this be the part where support arrives? Or would you have to learn how to slay your own dragons?
Make your community more sacred by getting in the driver’s seat of your friendships.
Invite cool people you trust to do awesome things you want to do. Are you longing for more adventure? Invite someone to go kayaking this weekend. Longing for deep spiritual sisterhood? Attend a moon circle or ask a friend if she wants to meditate with you. If you’re tired of the same old bar hang outs, jazz it up by thinking outside the box and take a risk by inviting people to do something unexpected! Set intentions and as Priya Parker says, “Don’t be a chill host!”
So what do you think, dear one? Which one are you most excited to put into practice today? What do you think could shift if you added a healthy dose of the sacred - the intentional, the magical, the holy - to your day to day life? Let us know in the comments below!